The WHY of ADOPTION
So we are all-in with adoption. It is something that we have always talked about and desired to do. Now, the time has come…
I bet the initial question is, “Why not just try and have more kids?” I totally understand that question. I remember when Sarah and I were dating, we were discussing our dreams for family. Even back then, we said that the ideal for us would be 2 biological and 2 adopted. And the question that kept coming up which has taken on more meaning after having biological kids was, “Why bring more kids into the world when there are so many other kids in the world who…
…don’t have parents…
…don’t have a family…
…don’t experience or understand love…
…and most importantly and most likely, don’t know their Maker and Creator…
So the answer to the Why question for us is rooted in the Bible. There are several important passages and themes within it that talk about orphans and adoption. These are the ones that immediately came to mind…
James 1:29… Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.
As followers of Jesus, we want to do the things that please Him. Taking care of the orphans and widows is a huge task, but adoption is our way of stepping out and doing something. Obviously, there are many other things that can be done to help the orphans and widows.
Galatians 4:4-7… But when the fullness of time had come, God sent forth his Son, born of woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, so that we might receive the adoption as sons. And because you are sons, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, crying, “Abba! Father!” So you are no longer a slave, but a son, and if a son, then an heir through God.
Romans 8:14-15… For all who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God. For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!”
There is nothing better in this life than to be called a child of God, adopted into his family by the work of Jesus on the cross. By that adoption, we can cry out to him as our Father. Within that relationship come the depths of love and trust and worth and grace and forgiveness and on and on.
It is to this end that we open up our home to children that we do not yet even know. While we can give a level of love and grace, it is our desire to give these children the opportunity to cry out to his Maker and Creator as “Father.” Children who have not only been adopted into our own family, but hopefully one day into the family of God.
The WHO of ADOPTION
Why adopt 1 child, when you can adopt 2? We have always wanted to adopt multiple children, so rather than go through the adoption process numerous times, we are just going to do it once. So at the end of this process, we are hoping to come home with multiple children, preferably a boy and a girl.
As to age, we desire to adopt younger children – 18 months, 2 years, 3 years – something in that age range would be awesome. And if we can adopt siblings then that would be great, but if not, then that will be great as well.
The WHERE of ADOPTION
Everyone always wants to know the answer to this question – “Where?”
Initially, we explored the 9 countries that our agency had to offer. China, Bulgaria, and Madagascar were the front runners. After looking at them, we ruled out Bulgaria because it was an incredibly long process. Therefore, we began researching China and Madagascar. Both seemed like great options. China was a no-brainer because we had lived there for some time. Madagascar had big needs and an open door. Unfortunately, Sarah didn’t meet the age requirement of 30, so in order to adopt from China, we would have to wait a few years until she turned 30. AND Madagascar didn’t meet our work requirements, because it demanded that we spend 2-3 months within the country before adopting. So both of the countries were actually not good options after all.
Then we Skyped with our adoption agency, Small World, and learned about some new and exciting information.
Ghana had recently become a new, adopting program with Small World. Why were we so excited about Ghana? Because we no longer had to wait until Sarah turned 30 to adopt children. We could finalize our paperwork and get on with the process. Progress!
But then, we got the phone call. Ghana would no longer be an option for us, because they were updating their “adoption accreditation” and making it more suitable for adoption. As a result, adoptions would not be happening for an unknown amount of time.
Unfortunate of course, because we did not want to wait until xxx date. And who really knows how long things will actually take in Africa.
So back to the drawing board. After Ghana fell through, we talked once again to Small World and they told us about another new program. Once again, it was in Africa.
After talking with them, we felt comfortable with the decision to switch countries again. So as of now, we will be adopting from Liberia. The only solace in all of these country changes is that God is directing us to the perfect country and the perfect children. Hoping that we will not have to update this with another country change.
The WHEN of ADOPTION
We started this process in September of 2016. As a result, we are ready to adopt children at any moment. Just waiting on government agencies to finalize paperwork and wait out the process.
The HOW of ADOPTION
Adoption, nowadays, is a very expensive endeavor. Administration fees, legal fees, travel costs, and procuring of documents, just to name a few, add up quickly. Even after doing everything necessary to adopt children, one must still play the waiting game…
We have partnered with Small World Adoption out of Tennessee (https://smallworldadoption.com) in our adoption journey. The decision was very simple. After reading their statement of beliefs, we knew that this was the perfect fit. They are not shy about their Christian beliefs and desire for the child to be in a family with like values and beliefs. In addition, they came recommended to us because they have lots of experience working with ex-pats (people who live and work outside of their home country). For these reasons, we are very happy to partner with them in this amazing journey.
The million dollar question…
How much do we actually have to raise in order to bring the Little Eggers’ home? Rather than give you a precise amount, I want to share a story with you.
George Müller (1805-1898) was a Christian evangelist and a coordinator of orphanages in Bristol, England. Through his faith and prayers, he had the privilege of caring for over 120,000 orphan children. He also traveled over 200,000 miles (by ship) to preach the gospel of Jesus in 42 countries and to challenge believers to trust in God. In his journals, Müller recorded miracle-after-miracle of God’s provision and answered prayer:
One morning, all the plates and cups and bowls on the table were empty. There was no food in the larder and no money to buy food. The children were standing, waiting for their morning meal, when Müller said, “Children, you know we must be in time for school.” Then lifting up his hands he prayed, “Dear Father, we thank Thee for what Thou art going to give us to eat.”
There was a knock at the door. The baker stood there, and said, “Mr. Müller, I couldn’t sleep last night. Somehow I felt you didn’t have bread for breakfast, and the Lord wanted me to send you some. So I got up at 2 a.m. and baked some fresh bread, and have brought it.”
Mr. Müller thanked the baker, and no sooner had he left, when there was a second knock at the door. It was the milkman. He announced that his milk cart had broken down right in front of the orphanage, and he would like to give the children his cans of fresh milk so he could empty his wagon and repair it.
After a terrible cholera epidemic resulting in many orphaned children, Müller felt compelled to call a meeting with a desire to open an orphan home. This was a complete step of faith. Four days before the meeting, God confirmed it through the Scripture – ‘Open wide your mouth and I will fill it’ (Ps. 81:10).
Müller thus began the Children’s Homes with the primary objective that it should be seen that God was providing all the needs as a result of prayer and faith, without anyone being asked or approached.
So, we are taking a similar Müller approach…
We aren’t making the amount known, but letting you know that we are adopting.
We aren’t sitting on the sidelines, but we are going to the Father in prayer.
We are keeping the faith, knowing that he will provide in powerful ways.
“Dear Father, we thank you for what you are going to provide through the Body of Christ.”