What do you say to your longtime friend who is getting married and you can’t be there to celebrate it? As you can see in the pic, we had some fun times together. From our high school days on the soccer field with Dr. Morgan and Coach David to our many football games at UCF, there was never a dull moment. I wasn’t really sure what was going to happen after high school because you bolted the state for Messiah College, but thankfully you got your head on straight and re-joined me at UCF.
I was your QB on Heart Attack (what kind of name is that?), sometimes with the Showstoppers, but most notably with The Franchise. Some amazing days with a few championships under our belt.
Not only did we make our way around the state of Florida for football, we had our fair share of moves around the UCF campus. I remember living in the Nike village with you. I still don’t know how we ever got any school work done with all the crazy things that were going on in there. Then we spent way too much money at Alafaya Club, but at least we got to hang out with BP and Kyle “The Ankle Breaker.”
We survived a few hurricanes in that place.
We survived Ballinger’s fists.
We played some hall soccer and even hall baseball.
And we even survived the Tetris and Xbox vortex.
We did have our occasional nights of Champions of Norrath, but it was worth it.
Then we spent some time at Mission Bay where we used that time to gallivant around town. Football still happened. Jobs still happened. Robberies took place, but life was good.
All along the way, we were always searching for our future wives. We spent countless hours on the beaches of Clearwater and Sand Key, usually chucking the pigskin up and down the beach, and occasionally “fishing” for the ladies. It never worked out as planned. If you want evidence of our failed plan, you can ask BP about his face plant and lack of knowing his whereabouts. Man, that was hilarious.
We also drove that strip at night for hours, showing off our rides and hoping that the ladies would just hunt us down. But once again, it never worked out and we are better for it.
I could go on and on about our failed endeavors in regards to the ladies, but why? You are getting married this weekend. You have found your lady and praise God for it. It has been a long time of waiting and wanting.
So I wanted to share some words of wisdom with you, both from the Bible and my personal experience, before your big day…
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband – Ephesians 5
Jesus at the center
If you do this, then everything else will work out. It won’t always be easy, but it will come together. He will guide and direct, giving wisdom as needed. He will be there on the difficult days to comfort and love. I know that you know these things, but they will have a big impact on your marriage, if included, and an even bigger (negative) impact, if excluded. Everyday just be in the Bible. Be praying for your wife. Lead your family in going to church, etc. Let the Lord work through you and your family.
Serve your wife
Although it sounds anti-macho and counter culture, it will show not only your wife, Kat, but also your friends, family, and the watching world how much you truly love her. Let’s be honest… it is pretty easy to say, “I do,” but the real work will come in serving and loving her. In this, however, you will hold her heart forever.
Never use the “D” word
If you set the policy in your home to not use the dreaded “D” word, then you won’t ever think about doing it. The point is that it is not an option. It is off the table completely, because you are in it for the long run. Make your marriage an example to everyone. Go against the cultural trends and remain committed to Kat for your entire life. Be the trendsetter.
You are responsible for your marriage
Now I commend you because you remember me in everything and maintain the traditions even as I delivered them to you. But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.
Although you and Kat will soon be one, you are the leader of your family. How you lead determines the direction of not only your course, but your wife, and your future family. Therefore, communicate with one another. Be on the same page. Seek counsel on decisions. And if you have to make a decision contrary to Kat, then you better be sure of it, it better be the right decision 😉 and one made with the family in mind.
I know that you are going to rock it out at the wedding. You will be stylin’ and profilin’ as you always are. You will have a blast at the wedding and reception, making lots of memories as you go. And you will party into the sunset with your new wife for the many years of the wild Weaver adventures.
It pains me to write all of this, when I so badly want to be there in person. I wish that things were different. Through all these years, you have been a great friend. Glad that you are getting Kat and I will gladly move to the side for her.
All my love and best wishes, Mitch (Mini Hulk)